Guest writer Peter Pellicaan answers another parenting question, this time on whether parents should come before spouses.
Question: Shouldn’t my children come before everything else?
Answer: It’s not uncommon to hear parents speak of their deep and passionate love for their children.
I have often heard parents make comments like “I’d die for my kids” or “I’d do anything for my kids” or “my kids mean the world to me”.
This kind of selfless and passionate love is beautiful. But how often have you heard someone say – “I’d die for my wife, or my wife means the world to me?”
As Catholics we celebrate the lives of many martyrs, but how often have you heard someone say “I’d die for Christ” or “Christ means the world to me?”
One of the biggest confusions in the 21st century concept of the family is with respect to the ordering of our loves. For many, whether consciously or not, children come first, then spouse, then faith.
For some people work trumps both children and spouse.
But what is the right order? Should children really come first?
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