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Home Opinion Guest Writers

Is chivalry dying?

byGuest Contributor
24 November 2014
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By Clare Burns

FOLLOWING writing about St John Paul II’s new f-word (feminism) in the October 5 edition of The Catholic Leader, one of my male friends asked me to write about the c-word.

He was referring to chivalry. I tried to coerce him into writing this, but he insisted.

While my knowledge of chivalry is limited I’m certain Julien Blanc’s seminars “to make girls sleep with you” is at the other opposite end of the spectrum to chivalry.

Blanc describes his techniques for picking up women using force and emotional abuse as: ‘“Offensive, inappropriate, emotionally scarring, but damn effective.”

Following a brief but successful social media campaign Immigration Minister Scott Morrison revoked Blanc’s visa – the pendulum too far away from morality or chivalry.

Still I haven’t heard any voice in the mainstream championing chivalry.

The meaning of the word has taken on many forms since its etymology in the 12th Century when it had something to do with the management of horses.

The word continued to evolve taking on more of a moral code for knights, so much so there were formal rules of medieval chivalry covering religious and social code of conduct.

Unsure of what the c-word means today I asked some of my male friends.

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While the responses were mixed they all said it was more than opening a door – “It’s about respecting women and having the right attitude”.

And while the jury is still out over who should pay for meals, the word service and occasionally sacrifice rose up.

Additionally some wanted to make it clear that chivalry was different to patronising or using women.

A number of males said sometimes they were reticent to act chivalrously because their intention could be misinterpreted.

Perhaps this is one of the reasons why the word and ensuing actions have transversed into a dangerous area of modern language.

So is chivalry dying?

Certainly the word has changed from its origins, yet it is still synonymous with masculinity. Unfortunately the whole discussion around the masculine identity has become somewhat foggy – modern media doesn’t offer a clear depiction of what it is to be a man.

Still, I am glad to be alive in this era which has St John Paul II’s Theology of the Body as an anchor or reference point.

Essentially he said women and men are absolutely equal in dignity before God, but constitute different ways of being human.

He also stated the opposite of love is use.

In the past I have worked for Mensline Australia and delivered papers on men’s health but when asked what I know about men my response is – it’s a mystery.

That said, what I do know is despite living in a war zone and taking boxing classes I like it when a male offers to escort me to my car or sees I am cold and moves chairs and table so I’m not caught in the wind.

I also like it when I am in a meeting and my voice is heard, not because I am a female or it’s a “nice” thing to do but because I add value to the discussion.

Female friends share with me how they feel cared for and special when a male steps ahead and takes initiative, not to overpower, but to love and respect.

Are these women able to do some of these tasks?

Yes, but the joy of reciprocity would be lost, as would the symbolic gesture that if you were in danger they want to protect you.

While I don’t know if the word chivalry will die out I take heart Australian society has just said “enough is enough” – men like Blanc teaching assaulting women is about being powerful and masculine are not welcome here.

Let’s hope this sentiment of respecting people continues so we can live freely celebrating our gender differences.

For more information on Theology of the Body see www.theologyofthebody.net – you may also be interested in Collective Shoutís social media activity www.collectiveshout.org

Clare Burns is a Catholic from Melbourne studying in Brisbane.

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