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Pope: Families need fathers who guide, love them through thick and thin

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5 February 2015 - Updated on 1 April 2021
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Being there: Pope Francis says the most important thing for fathers was being present for his wife and children.

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Being there: Pope Francis says the most important thing for fathers was being present for his wife and children.

FAMILIES ­need a father who shares in their joy and pain, hands down wisdom to his children and offers them firm guidance and love, Pope Francis said.

Being a father was not easy since it took lots of patience and grace, he said.

“But what consolation, what a reward one receives when the children honour this legacy. It is a joy that more than makes up for the hard work, that overcomes every misunderstanding and heals every wound,” the Pope said at his general audience yesterday (February 4).

In a series of talks on the family, the Pope continued the second part of his reflection on the role of fathers. While his last audience talk looked at the risks and problems caused by fathers who were absent or failed their family, the day’s talk focused on the importance and dignity of fatherhood.

Speaking to about 7000 people gathered in the Paul VI audience hall, the Pope spelled out the essential, but demanding, things it took to be a good father.

The most important was being present, first by being by his wife’s side “to share everything, joy and pain, hard work and hope” and by being there for his children as they grew, he said.

A father was there for his kids “when they play and when they work hard, when they are playful and when they are distressed, when they are communicative and when they are taciturn, when they are daring and when they are afraid, when they have strayed and when they have found their way again”, he said.

However, being present “is not the same as being controlling, you know, because fathers who are too controlling suffocate their children and don’t let them grow”, the Pope said.

A father knew how to firmly correct children’s mistakes without demeaning or demoralising them, as well as protect them at all costs, the Pope said. Guidance did not come from a father who was “weak, yielding and a softie”, he said.

When it came to corporal punishment, the Pope talked about how one father he knew explained his approach when the father admitted “‘sometimes I have to hit my kids a bit, but never on their face so as not to humiliate them'”. The Pope praised the man’s respect for the kids’ dignity as he understood the need to punish in a way that was “just” with the ability to “move forward”.

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But a good father also knew how to forgive sincerely from the heart and be patient and merciful, like the father in the Gospel account of the prodigal son, he said.

“How much dignity and how much tenderness in that father who is waiting by the door”, waiting for the child who had strayed, he said.

“Yes, fathers must be patient. So many times there’s nothing left to do but wait, pray and wait with patience, tenderness, magnanimity and mercy.”

A parent found pride not in having the child “be the same as me, who repeats what I say and what I do”, but when the child had received the wisdom and values that really mattered in life.

The father would have formed his children’s heart to know on their own what was right and wrong and to feel, speak and act with wisdom and integrity, the Pope said.

He said a wise and mature father would be able to say to his children after they had grown: “I taught you things that you didn’t know, I corrected errors that you did not see. I let you feel an affection that was both deep and discreet that perhaps you did not fully recognise when you were young and unsure. I gave you witness of rigour and willpower that perhaps you did not understand when you just wanted complicity and protection.”

The good father tempered his emotions and dug deep to find the right words to make himself understood as well as accept the burden of those inevitable misunderstandings, he said.

The father would say to his grown children as they had children of their own, “‘When I see that you try to be this way with your kids and with everyone, I am deeply moved. I am happy to be your father.'”

The Pope said that without God and his grace, “fathers lose their courage and walk off the field. But children need to find a father who is waiting for them when they return from their failures. They will do everything not to admit it, not to show it, but they need this, and not finding him opens up in them wounds that are difficult to heal.”

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