“I LIKE to dream of a Church that lives the compassion of Jesus,” Pope Francis told more than 7000 priests, religious, catechists and parish council members from the Diocese of Rome.
If every parish embodied the virtues of compassion, tenderness, patience and welcoming, the Catholic Church would be the mother she claimed to be and would continue to generate numerous children, the Pope said on June 16, opening the Rome diocese’s annual convention.
In a 35-minute talk, most of which was off the cuff, Pope Francis responded to the concerns expressed by a pastor and two catechists about the difficulties of keeping families active in parish life and, consequently, in transmitting the faith to children and young people.
Pastor of the parish of San Frumenzio Fr Gianpiero Palmieri told Pope Francis that in the Diocese of Rome programs for preparing children for first Communion were still popular, but half of the children did not go on to prepare for Confirmation, which the diocese usually administered to young people between the ages of 12 and 14.
Pope Francis told convention participants that before joining them for the evening session, he stopped for coffee in the kitchen of the guesthouse where he lives. The cook was still there and the Pope asked him how long it would take him to get home; the man responded that his commute was about an hour and a half.
“An hour and a half to go home to his children, his wife,” the Pope said.
Pope Francis said he knew many parents got up early, took their children to school, went to work – sometimes places of “tension and conflict” – and often got home immediately before or even after their children had gone to bed.
In such situations, he said, it was natural for parents to feel like they had “a crushing weight” on their shoulders and they wondered, “Is this living?”
If parents were so overburdened and dissatisfied, he said, how can they help their children discover the meaning of their lives and “the direction to take so that their lives are beautiful and they are happy to get up each morning?”
With everyone in a family running in different directions, the Pope said, young people were left without guidance, without someone to trust, without “ideals that warm their hearts” and without hope.
“This is a society of orphans,” he said.
When people did not experience unconditional love and acceptance from their parents, from other family members, at school or in their parish, the Pope said, “it will be much more difficult to understand God’s grace, that grace that cannot be bought or sold, that is a gift of God”.
Yet, Pope Francis said, Jesus promised his disciples he would not leave them orphans. Even if modern society seemed to tell people “you don’t matter, you’re disposable”, God would never say that and neither can the Church.
“The great challenge of the Church today is to become mother,” he said. “If the Church is not a mother – I know it is bad to say this, but she becomes an ‘old maid'”, and cannot bring forth children.
The Church did not become a mother by going door to door and offering to sign people up as if it were “an association called the Catholic Church”, he said. Rather, the Church was a mother when she did what mothers did: offer love, tenderness, a caring gaze, almost endless patience, a welcome and compassion.
“Our mother Church seems to be a bit old, not to speak of a ‘grandmother’ Church, but aging. We must rejuvenate her,” he said, and “not by taking her to a plastic surgeon”.
The Church did not need cosmetic surgery, the Pope said, but it needed the energy and joy that came from being a mother, seeing her children gather at home and welcoming their friends as well.
Pope Francis urged all parish workers to be warm and welcoming, to listen to people before asking them to fill out registration forms or pay stipends for different services. The Church, he said, must have “a heart without limits, but not just a heart: also a certain gaze, the sweetness of Jesus’ gaze, which often is more eloquent than many words”.
The Pope also thanked parish priests, who dedicated every waking moment – and often miss out on a full night’s sleep – to minister to the people in their care.
“It is easier to be a bishop than to be pastor” of a parish, he said. “We bishops always have the possibility of distancing ourselves, of hiding behind (the title) ‘Your Excellency'”, while parish priests are in the thick of things with someone phoning, knocking on the door or cornering him to complain about others in the parish.