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What is love?

by Guest Contributor
11 April 2016 - Updated on 1 April 2021
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What is love: “People say that we as Christians are called to love, but what does love in action actually mean?”

Couple praying
What is love: “People say that we as Christians are called to love, but what does love in action actually mean?”

WHEN my husband and I first started dating, we sat down and had a hard conversation, setting ground rules and getting on the same page for our expectations of the relationship.

As much as the conversation made me sweat, it was one of the best things we ever did because it helped to set a foundation to build upon.

The number one take-away from that conversation was a promise to will the good of the other, above our own needs. 

That is, to love.

It became a silent mantra as we got to know one another and I found myself on a daily basis asking myself if what I was doing or about to do was the most loving thing for him – often I wasn’t sure of the answer.

People say that we as Christians are called to love, but what does love in action actually mean?

We hear things like “If you really love me, you’ll have sex with me” or “If you really love me, you’ll buy me nice things”.

The first problem to notice here is the condition put on love – but love should be unconditional.

The second problem is the focus put upon the other person’s actions – but love does not count what is received by others, rather what is given by the self.

I need not go into detail about using sex or money as wagers in how little or much one person loves another.

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So from constantly asking the question of how to love in the context of our relationship I have come to a deeper, more Christian understanding – that sometimes the most loving thing does not always feel like the most loving thing; that sometimes it means speaking up instead of letting things slide; that sometimes it means looking after my own needs so that I am in a better place to love him; that sometimes it means ignoring my own needs and tending to his first; and that it always means to pray for him.

It has caused me to make the choice to leave Brisbane and follow him overseas; to challenge him to eat healthier after a long day’s work instead of stress eating; to give him shoulder massages to relieve pain from an old injury, even when I don’t feel like it; it has meant praying together every night even when we’re too tired; and it has also meant ensuring I fill up myself by having introvert time so that I, in turn, have more to give to him.

And, yes, I may be a newbie at this whole marriage thing, but I feel that my husband and I have equipped ourselves with the greatest tool to survive the tough times.

I wonder how many more relationships would last, had the couple set their minds upon fulfilling the needs of one another, rather than focusing on how their own needs are being unmet.

By Michaela Hillam

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